The Empty Dinner Promise

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'AITA for coming home upset after my boyfriend said he would cook and didn’t

For context, my (F23) boyfriend (M26) and i live together. He is still studying (online) and i work full time (7:30 to 4pm). He is at home the entire day.

i usually come home to cook and i really don’t mind it at all. Today my boyfriend said he would cook as i told him i was really hungry during work.

i got home and nothing was done. I got very irritated and just went straight to the kitchen and started cooking. My boyfriend saw that i was upset and said he was gonna cook but he was waiting for the maid to come and wash the pots and she only came at 3pm. In my head i thought why can’t you wash one pot? but i said nothing.

instead i said, why couldn’t you at least prepare the things I needed to cook like cut the onions, peel the potatoes etc. he goes on to say he didn’t do it because where would he leave it while the maid cleans. i was just shocked because firstly that’s the dumbest excuse anyone could come up with, and secondly, can you not use common sense?

anyway, long story short, he’s now mad at me and not talking to me and sleeping in the lounge. I’m so frustrated, how can he be mad at me for something he did???? AITA for getting upset with him because he didn’t cook?

it’s literally my birthday tomorrow and he’s not even talking to me currently. all i wanted was to come home today and have the food ready so i could eat. i don’t mind doing the cooking but then don’t say the food will be done and when i get there nothing has been done. i’m so frustrated currently and he just makes it seem as though im the bad person and i just feel like shit

edit: for everyone asking about the maid, she only comes once a week to do a thorough clean. my boyfriend usually washes the left over dishes during the day when i’m at work. this sort of makes me more mad because then he had no excuse not to wash the pot'

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Plaintiff: OP (A.K.A. The Exhausted & Hungry Girlfriend)Charges: False Advertising, Emotional Manipulation, Weaponized Incompetence

👨 Defendant: Boyfriend (A.K.A. The Man Who Couldn't Wash a Pot)Defense: "I Was Waiting for the Maid," Poor Time Management

Statement of Facts:

• OP works full-time (7:30 AM - 4 PM) while her boyfriend studies online from home.

• She usually cooks after work and doesn’t mind—but today, he offered to cook.

• OP arrives home to find nothing done. No food. No prep. Just vibes.

• Excuse #1: "I was waiting for the maid to wash the pots."

• Excuse #2: "I didn’t even prep because where would I leave the ingredients while the maid cleaned?"

• OP calls BS but says nothing, instead just starts cooking while visibly upset.

• Boyfriend gets mad at HER for being upset and is now ignoring her… on the eve of her birthday.

The AITA Court of Public Opinion is Now in Session.

The Plaintiff’s Case (OP’s POV)

• If you offer to do something, follow through—it’s that simple.

• Waiting for the maid is a lazy excuse. A grown adult can wash a single pot.

• This isn’t about cooking—it’s about reliability. If you promise something and don’t deliver, don’t be surprised when your partner is frustrated.

• Instead of apologizing, he’s punishing her with silent treatment—on her birthday.

The Defendant’s Case (Boyfriend’s POV)

• He technically was still going to cook but had a timing issue.

• He thought waiting for the maid made more sense than washing the dishes himself.

• OP got mad without directly saying anything, making the situation worse.

• He feels attacked over what he sees as a small issue.

The Verdict

🚩 Not cooking wasn’t the crime—the laziness, excuses, and gaslighting were.🚩 Being upset about this is completely reasonable. He set an expectation and didn’t deliver.🚩 His silent treatment is manipulative. Instead of apologizing, he’s punishing her for having feelings.

Final Judgment: Boyfriend gets a solid YTA (You’re The Asshole) with a side of 🚩.

Sentence:

• One week of cooking duties with no complaints.

• One heartfelt apology (preferably before OP’s birthday).

• One lesson in basic adulthood: WASH. THE. DAMN. POT.

What’s your ruling? Is OP rightfully upset, or is she making a big deal out of nothing? Drop your verdict below! ⚖️🔥

AITA for coming home upset after my boyfriend said he would cook and didn’t byu/Emotional_Rest_494 inAmItheAsshole

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